It’s not failure that you’re really afraid of. What terrifies you is becoming a raging success.
DON’T YOU want to do work that matters?
Duh you do. But these 5 awful lies that you’ve been told about self-care are keeping you stuck in the same rut as everyone else. It’s time to give tradition the finger and create the kind of world you want to live in.
I’m Racheal, and just a few years ago I was buying the lie that life just is the way it is and my job was to go along with it.
Then, I was just another twenty-something trying to navigate marriage + babies without an epic crash and burn. Today, I’m sharing everything I’ve learned about (unapologetically) building a life that you love.
I knew that I had a purpose, but i almost gave up on discovering what it was
I was doing everything I thought I was supposed to, like:
saying yes to all the social invites, church events, and volunteer opportunities
devoting time every morning to journal and pray
reading lots of personal development books
staying up late into the night after my kids were asleep to chase my (selfish) dreams
never asking for help because I chose this didn’t I?
And still waiting for that living my best life feeling to kick in
After a couple years of that, I was tired, desperate, and resentful.
Even though I had all that I had ever asked for and everything to be thankful for, I felt like i was losing myself.
I forced myself through the motions of motherhood, marriage, and church wondering if I would ever feel inspired + alive again.
Truly, I was grateful for the life I had. I was deeply aware of how privileged I was, and I was drowning in guilt that I couldn’t make it be enough to satisfy my heart. I was ashamed that motherhood didn’t feel like the big work I was called to.
I came frighteningly close to giving up on the idea that I was meant to do something important.
And if not for one brave move, I probably would have.
I asked for what i wanted, rules be darned
I can remember the day I told my husband that I wanted an afternoon off each week to write.
It felt like the most selfish thing in the entire world. I cried when I asked him if he minded.
What kind of person inconveniences her family for a dumb hobby? I nearly suffocated from the guilt of it.
But I was so desperate for something to call my own that I worked up the courage and I asked for what I wanted.
And the world didn’t stop.
If fact, it went on spinning just fine without me.
My kids still got bathed and fed and snuggled. My husband still felt loved. No one cared at all that I took a break from holding everything together.
I realized then that no one was ever going to give me permission to create the kind of life I really wanted. It was up to me to speak up.
My problem all along was that I was trying to win at a game I really didn’t care about, playing by rules that felt outdated and dumb.
As I looked back over my life for the last couple of years, it became so clear to me that…
almost everything I had been taught to believe about who I was supposed to be and how I was supposed to live was entirely false.
Staying busy is fine, as long as you’re doing “good” things.
Finally, Americans are beginning to realize that we are far too busy. It’s kosher now to decline social events and other extra-curriculars for the sake of your sanity. But in some circles, you’re rewarded and regarded for staying busy as long as what you’re doing is for the good of other people.
Sacrificing your needs + wants for the greater good is noble and kind.
I’m tempted to say that this expectation is forced more on women than on men, but I have a suspicion that our husbands, brothers, and sons battle this lie, too. Keep reading to see how I learned to say no without feeling guilty.
Motherhood is your highest calling.
It’s just not, okay? Motherhood is an incredible experience. It’s beautiful and hard and so worth doing well. But it’s not the only thing worth doing.
Your physical + emotional health aren’t nearly as important as your spiritual health.
It’s much more important to be a good person than it is to eat well or rest, right? Well, I think we’ve got a pretty twisted definition of “good person,” so maybe not.
If other people that I trust are doing it this way, it must be the only correct way.
Here’s the problem with this kind of thinking: it keeps us stuck in the same old patterns. Just because our moms and grandmas lived + thrived with certain routines, habits, or ideals doesn’t mean that those have to work for us, too. I think it’s safe to say that we face a much different world than they did, don’t you?
The parents, teachers, and pastors that we grew up learning from taught us how they wanted to live. But no one ever told us that one day, we would have to examine everything we had been taught and choose our own way forward.
A way that would include strategies for coping with OUR adult realities, like:
social media and it’s impact on our mental health
a confusing + distressing political climate
parenting in the age of the mom-shamers
a shifting economy where a college degree doesn’t guarantee a great job
the absence of mentors to surround + support us, since we likely moved away from home in pursuit of a career
What I’ve learned is that if you want to find purpose and live a life that feels right for you, you have to be intentional about establishing habits that protect your physical, emotional, and spiritual energy.
you have to Create a self-care routine that fuels your potential.
When most women hear the term self-care, they assume that they don’t have enough time, money, or help to establish a successful self-care practice.
But I’ve created a routine that only takes me about half an hour each day, can be done with my kids at home, and really only requires ONE product:
A premium Essential Oils kit
Ever since I discovered that my own self-limiting beliefs were keeping me feeling small and insignificant, I’ve intentionally worked to improve my mental + emotional health.
Knowing that aromatherapy has been used successfully for centuries to stimulate emotional awareness and enhance spirituality, I started incorporating some specific essential oils into my daily routines.
Looking back, I’m amazed at how different my life looks today.
I am confident in myself + my purpose.
I am happy to be at home with my kids in this season.
I am unapologetic when I say no to things not meant for us.
I’m pursuing the things I’m passionate about with zero guilt
This is what you can look forward to when you establish a self-care routine using your own Premium Essential Oils Kit.
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Desert Mist Diffuser
Premium Essential Oils Collection:
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Lemon Vitality™ 5-ml
Copaiba Vitality™ 5-ml
Thieves® Vitality™ 5-ml
Citrus Fresh™ 5-ml
DiGize™ Vitality™ 5-ml
Stress Away™ 5-ml
AromaGlide™ Roller Fitment
Thieves Household Cleaner 1-oz. sample
10 Love It? Share It! Sample Cards
10 Love It? Share It! Sample Oil Bottles
2 NingXia Red® 2-oz. samples
Product Guide and Product Price List
Essential Oils Magazine
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Aren’t you ready to Embrace your self-worth, live with purpose, and achieve your vision for life?
A self-care routine isn’t complete without something to support your mental + spiritual health.
I’ve invested hundreds of dollars to learn the science of brain health and essential oils. And I’ve dedicated a whole bunch of naptimes to creating resources that help women like you learn to use essential oils + create a self-care routine that fuels your spirit.
It’s a pretty incredible value for $247.
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